Have you ever struggled to decide or enter into a commitment because you didn’t trust your ability to make the right choice? How many times have you felt in the pit of your stomach that something was wrong? Did you pay attention to your intuition, or did you ignore it? Deep in our core, we know what is best for us. So why don’t we trust that?
Some of us were taught as a child that we can’t trust ourselves. Maybe we weren’t able to trust our loved ones, or our loved ones couldn’t trust us. Sometimes life experiences shatter our trust in ourselves. Perhaps you can recall an event in which you trusted yourself, and the outcome was disastrous and painful. The inability to trust in yourself can stem from not knowing who we are and what’s important to us. Other times, we know what is right for us, but we fail to honour that because of fear, external pressure, or a belief that we are not worthy.
Sometimes we do make decisions that don’t turn out as planned. Sometimes, the red flags are there, and we ignore them. Other times, we truly make the best decision we can. Ask any successful entrepreneur about her process of decision-making. She will probably tell you she weighed all the pros and cons and tried to anticipate any problems. She might have looked to the experts for helpful insight. In the end, she made the most informed decision she could. If you ask her if all her choices were right, she will tell you no. Life changes; people change. Just because something doesn’t work out the way you wanted does not mean you cannot trust yourself in the future.
Trusting yourself is essential to love yourself. You know yourself better than anyone, and no one will take care of you except you. Until you trust yourself, you cannot trust anyone fully. When you don’t trust yourself, you will seek guidance from everyone else. Your life will be outer-focused, and people will make decisions about your life for you.
Make your decisions based on what’s most important to you and what works best for you. You can ask other people’s opinions as long as you are willing to pay the most attention to your feelings. If unsure of yourself, take the time to listen to your gut. If you have a relationship with a Higher Power, pray or meditate and ask that the truth be revealed to you.
During my Spiritual Coaching training, we were taught to listen to intuition. A lot of us questioned how we know if we’re right. In other words, how can we know for sure if we can trust ourselves? You don’t know for sure unless you test it out. We were instructed as Spiritual Coaches to blurt out what our intuition was telling us and then wait to see how the client responded. The more we test our intuition and discover it’s telling the truth, the more we trust ourselves.
So try some experiments. Pay attention to your gut-level reaction when you feel confused about a decision. Don’t rationalise or talk yourself out of your feelings. Go with it and see how it turns out. You can even list times you trust your intuition and things go well. The more you practice trusting yourself, the easier it will become. If you trust yourself and find out later it was a mistake, learn from it and move on. It’s okay to be wrong. It’s better to trust yourself and be wrong than not to trust yourself.
Samantha is an intuitive healer and visionary who holds space for heart-centric souls to discover their strengths, find their true purpose and take bold steps towards living a life aligned with their core values and soul purpose. Through a fusion of psychology, spirituality, Human Design, Reiki Energy Healing, and two decades of business experience, Samantha has supported hundreds of people to find their purpose, live life with more flow, and build thriving businesses.
She is is a registered practitioner with UK Reiki Federation and CMA.
As a though-leader, her work has been featured in numerous publications and television appearances on BBC and Channel 5 News.